The Basics of Understanding Nervous System Regulation: A Path to a Calmer You.
- Katie Fleming-Thomas, M.S., LPC

- Apr 3, 2023
- 9 min read
Updated: Sep 3
Understanding and caring for the regulation of our nervous system is essential to maintaining overall health and well-being. Learning about nervous system regulation can be daunting at first, especially with all the technical terms and complex concepts involved. However, it's important to understand the basics in order to promote optimal nervous system function and overall well-being. That's why this article is here to break down the fundamentals of nervous system regulation in an accessible way, so you can start incorporating this knowledge into your daily life. Whether you're a beginner or looking to refresh your understanding, this article will provide you with a solid foundation to get started.

Your nervous system is responsible for controlling all of your body's functions, including your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations. It consists of two main parts: the sympathetic nervous system and the parasympathetic nervous system.
The sympathetic nervous system is responsible for the "fight or flight" response, which is triggered when you perceive a threat or danger. This response prepares your body to respond to the threat by increasing your heart rate, breathing rate, and blood pressure, among other things.
On the other hand, the parasympathetic nervous system is responsible for the "rest and digest" response, which helps your body recover and relax after a stressful event. It helps to slow down your heart rate, breathing rate, and blood pressure, among other things.
Why Nervous System Regulation is Especially Important for Anxiety
When you experience anxiety, your body may be stuck in a constant state of "fight or flight" mode, which can lead to physical symptoms such as rapid heart rate, sweating, and shortness of breath. Being constantly activated can also make it difficult to relax and engage in activities that we enjoy. We may find ourselves constantly checking for potential threats, avoiding situations that trigger our anxiety, or struggling to focus on tasks due to racing thoughts or physical tension.
Furthermore, exhaustion or nervous system burnout can also affect our well-being. Chronic stress or prolonged periods of activation can lead to exhaustion or burnout. This happens when our body's resources are depleted, and we can no longer cope with stress effectively. Exhaustion can further perpetuate an activated state, making it more difficult for our body to return to a state of calmness, neutrality, or equilibrium. This can result in physical symptoms such as fatigue, irritability, and difficulty concentrating.
By practicing nervous system regulation exercises, you can train your body to respond more appropriately to stress and reduce the likelihood of experiencing anxiety symptoms. With consistent practice, you may find that you are able to manage your anxiety more effectively and enjoy a greater sense of calm and relaxation in your daily life.
Poly Vagal Theory, Vagus Nerve, and Vagal Tone
Polyvagal Therapy is a form of therapy that is based on the polyvagal theory, which suggests that the autonomic nervous system is responsible for regulating social engagement, stress responses, and overall well-being. The therapy aims to help individuals regulate their nervous systems and reduce symptoms of stress, anxiety, and trauma.
The Vagus nerve is one of the most important nerves in the body, and it is a key component of the autonomic nervous system. This nerve runs from the brainstem down through the neck and chest, and it is responsible for regulating a wide range of bodily functions, including heart rate, digestion, and respiration.
Vagal tone is a measure of the activity of the Vagus nerve and reflects the ability of the parasympathetic nervous system to regulate bodily functions. A higher vagal tone is generally associated with better health outcomes, including improved heart health, lower levels of stress and anxiety, and better overall emotional regulation.
The Vagus nerve is divided into two branches: the dorsal vagal complex (posterior) and the ventral vagal complex (anterior). The dorsal vagal complex is responsible for the "freeze" response that can occur in response to extreme stress or trauma, while the ventral vagal complex is responsible for the "rest and digest" response that promotes relaxation and social engagement.
The ventral vagal complex is particularly important for nervous system regulation and overall well-being. By activating this part of the Vagus nerve, individuals can promote relaxation and reduce symptoms of stress and anxiety. By practicing techniques regularly, individuals can increase their vagal tone and improve their overall health and well-being.
Polyvagal exercises are an important component of polyvagal therapy, as they help individuals develop skills and strategies for regulating their nervous system. These exercises can include techniques like deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, specific kinds of eye movements, mindful meditation, yoga, grounding exercises, self-soothing techniques, social engagement, and being in nature.
The exercises activate the parasympathetic nervous system, promoting relaxation and a sense of safety. By practicing these exercises regularly, individuals can become more aware of their nervous system states and develop the ability to regulate them when needed. This can help reduce symptoms of stress, anxiety, and trauma and promote overall well-being.
Polyvagal therapy can be used on its own or as part of a larger treatment plan for individuals with a range of mental health conditions. It's important to work with a trained professional to develop a personalized plan for nervous system regulation and overall mental health. Strengthening vagal tone can have significant and long-lasting benefits, helping us navigate the challenges of daily life with greater ease and resilience.
Windows of Tolerance and Resilience: Key Concepts
In addition to increasing vagal tone, another key concept in nervous system regulation is the "Window of Tolerance" and Resilience. The Window of Tolerance refers to the optimal state of arousal for effective functioning and learning. When we are within this window, we are able to cope with stress and maintain a sense of safety and stability. However, when we are outside of this window, either in a state of hyperarousal or hypoarousal, we can experience symptoms such as anxiety, panic, or depression.
Building resilience involves increasing our capacity to cope with stress and return to our Window of Tolerance. This can be achieved through techniques like mindfulness, self-compassion, and social support. By increasing our resilience, we become more equipped to navigate challenging situations and maintain a sense of safety and stability.
Overall, understanding the Window of Tolerance and building resilience through nervous system regulation techniques can improve our ability to cope with stress, regulate anxiety, and maintain a sense of well-being.
Here is how to work with some of these practices:
Breath Awareness: Gently bringing attention to your breath can support your nervous system in settling. Rather than trying to force deep breathing, see if you can simply slow the exhale or notice the natural rhythm of your breath. If it feels supportive, you might explore inhaling through the nose and allowing a slower, longer exhale through the mouth, like a quiet sigh. The invitation is to be curious, not perform, just sensing what feels regulating in your body right now.
Orienting: Orienting is a gentle practice of letting your eyes and attention move through your environment, simply noticing what’s around you. This helps signal safety to the nervous system and supports regulation by engaging the present-moment sensory world. Let your gaze land on something neutral or pleasant—shapes, colors, light, movement. There’s no need to analyze or label. Just notice. This can be especially helpful if you’re feeling overwhelmed or disconnected.
Tracking: Tracking is the practice of sensing what’s happening in your body, moment to moment, with curiosity and care. This might include noticing heat or coolness, tingling, pressure, tightness, or shifts in breath or posture. You’re not trying to fix or interpret anything, just gently following sensation like you might follow a trail in nature. It’s okay if this feels unfamiliar at first, tracking is a skill, and like any skill, it deepens with practice. Start small, and let your body lead.
Mindfulness Meditation: Mindfulness involves gently bringing your attention to the present moment with openness and curiosity. This can include awareness of the breath, body, sounds, or other sensations, without needing to change anything. Practicing mindfulness can support nervous system regulation by helping you build tolerance for sensation and reduce over-identification with thoughts. Note: If you have a trauma history, some mindfulness practices may feel activating. You can learn more through trauma-informed mindfulness resources or choose practices that feel more grounding.
Mindful Movement: Gentle, intentional movement, whether through yoga, stretching, walking, swaying, or dancing, can help release tension and support regulation by reconnecting you with your body. You don’t need a formal routine; simply tuning into how your body wants to move and letting it express itself freely can restore flow and support nervous system balance. Let movement be an expression of presence, not performance.
Grounding Exercises: Grounding uses your senses to help you reconnect with the present moment and feel more anchored. This might include placing your feet on the floor and feeling the contact, holding a textured object, listening closely to calming music, or noticing the temperature of your hands. You can also name what you see, hear, feel, or smell to reorient yourself to your surroundings when feeling disconnected.
Self-Soothing Techniques: Self-soothing involves tending to yourself in ways that offer comfort and calm. This might include taking a warm bath, sipping tea, lying under a blanket, reading something gentle, or spending quiet time in nature. The key is to listen to what your system is asking for and respond with care, noticing what brings a felt sense of relief or softening.
Social Engagement: Connecting with safe, supportive people can be one of the most regulating things we do. Warm conversation, shared laughter, eye contact, or even a shared silence with someone you trust can activate the nervous system's ventral vagal branch, helping restore a sense of connection and co-regulation. Expressing gratitude or simply reaching out can shift your state more than you might expect.
Practice, Patience, and Consistency
Just like how we can strengthen our muscles through exercise, we can also strengthen our vagal tone through specific practices and techniques. Think of it like going to the gym: when we exercise our muscles regularly, they become stronger and more resilient over time. Similarly, when we practice techniques that activate the Vagus nerve and increase vagal tone, we can improve our body's ability to regulate stress, anxiety, and overall well-being.
Just like going to the gym, it's important to have a consistent and varied routine for vagal tone exercises. This can include techniques like deep breathing, progressive muscle relaxation, mindful meditation, yoga, and social engagement. Practicing these exercises regularly and consistently builds our "vagal muscle" and increases our overall resilience to stress.
It's important to note that strengthening vagal tone is not a quick fix and requires ongoing effort and commitment. However, just like with exercise, the benefits of strengthening vagal tone can be significant and long-lasting. By improving our body's ability to regulate stress and anxiety, we can improve our overall health and well-being and increase our ability to navigate the challenges of daily life.
Repatterning:
It's important to recognize that nervous system dysregulation and the associated symptoms of stress and anxiety are often the result of long-term patterns and experiences. As a result, increasing vagal tone and regulating the nervous system is not a quick fix but rather a process that takes time, patience, and practice.
For example, if someone has experienced chronic stress or trauma for many years, their nervous system may have become wired to remain in a state of hyperarousal or hypoarousal. Repatterning takes time and effort, but with consistent practice, creating new neural pathways and improving nervous system regulation is possible. Our Nervous Systems are exceptionally intelligent and have a natural inclination towards health and healing. Sometimes we just need to support it better.
It's important to remember that progress is not always linear, and setbacks may occur along the way. However, even small steps towards increased regulation can significantly impact overall well-being. With dedication and a willingness to explore different techniques and practices, it is possible to increase vagal tone and build resilience in the face of stress and anxiety.
As you reflect on the information and resources presented, take some time to consider how you might integrate these concepts and practices into your own life.
Here are some questions to ask yourself:
Which nervous system regulation techniques resonate with me?
How can I incorporate these practices into my daily routine?
What time of day or situations would be most helpful for me to practice these techniques?
How can I make these practices a regular habit?
Are there any potential barriers to practicing these techniques regularly, and how can I address them?
How can I track my progress and notice changes in my nervous system regulation over time?
What questions do I have about nervous system regulation, and how can I explore these further?
Are there any resources or support systems that I can use to help me on my journey toward greater nervous system regulation?
How can I approach setbacks or challenges with compassion and self-care?
What are some ways that I can celebrate my progress and success along the way?
Remember, this is a process that takes time and practice, and there is no one "right" way to approach it. Each person's journey is unique, and it's important to find the best practices and strategies for you. Don't be afraid to experiment and try new things, and don't hesitate to reach out for support or guidance as needed. With dedication and a willingness to explore, you can build resilience and regulation in the face of stress and anxiety and cultivate greater well-being and joy in your daily life. Cheers to a healthier nervous system and a longer, healthier, and happier life.
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